Messages of Sympathy: What to Say When Someone Dies

Writing a sympathy message is just as difficult as knowing what to say when someone dies. It's not as simple as just scrawling down any generic message—messages of condolences require one to be sensitive, mindful, and thoughtful as well as being sympathetic. There are also cliched and possibly offensive phrases to avoid.

Thinking of messages of sympathy can be a difficult process. Sympathy cards present a unique challenge in that they are for people who need comfort and support. This article will provide you with:

General messages of sympathy
Messages of sympathy for people close to you
Pet sympathy card messages
Messages that you should avoid
How to write your card: things to keep in mind during your writing process
A sample sympathy card template
Additional links to a variety of sympathy card messages

Choosing your words carefully for your sympathy message will allow you to communicate the message you really want to get across. Make sure you put some time and thought into your message. Good luck!
General Messages of Sympathy

Below, you'll find some more general messages of sympathy. These are handy to use when you aren't as close to the receiver or deceased and would just like to express your condolences.

"I am at a loss for words. I know there is nothing for me to say that will make your loss easier but know that I am sending you my love and support. I hope you can understand what I can't put into words."
"Love knows no boundaries. While ________ is no longer physically with us, his/her spirit is always around us. My deepest condolences."
"Please know that you're in my thoughts and prayers. My sincerest condolences for an incredibly great loss. I'll never forget _________."
"I was so saddened to hear about _________ passing. I hope and pray that you will have strength during this time of loss."
"My deepest condolences to you during this time. Know that you are not alone and that if you ever need to talk, please don't hesitate to reach out."
"You have my deepest, sincerest sympathy."
"I am praying for you during your time of loss. Know that we are all thinking of you."
"We want to let you know that we are here for you if you need anything. Expect us to call you soon—you are welcome to come over whenever you want."
"I know that _________ was well loved and respected. He had great character and a big heart."
"Our sympathy is with you in your time of grieving."
"I have never been good at writing in cards, but I don't want that to keep me from letting you know the deep sympathy I feel for you at this time."
"Those who love us never go away. I hope you know that even during this dark time, __________ will always be with you in spirit."
"My deepest condolences to you and your family during this dark time. Please know that our family is keeping you and yours in our prayers and thoughts."
"May all the sweet memories of ___________ bring you solace during this time. I hope that all the great moments that you were able to have with him/her before she/he passed away brings you comfort."
"My heartfelt condolences to you during this time of sorrow. You're in my thoughts and prayers and I'm here for whatever you need."
"The loss of someone dear to us is never easy. I hope all the cherished memories that you have of ________ brings you some light during this dark time. My deepest condolences."
"I hope the love and support from your loved ones bring you peace during this difficult time. My heartfelt sympathies to you."
"There is no hurting, no suffering, and no pain in Heaven. While we grieve his/her physical loss, please be comforted by the fact that he/she is in a far better place now."
"Extending my most heartfelt sympathy to you and your family."
"I can't imagine how you're feeling right now and I won't pretend to know the loss that you're experiencing. Please know that you're not alone and I'm just a phone call away. If you ever need any support or someone to talk to, please don't hesitate to reach out."
"These things are never easy to write, and with a heavy heart I extend my deepest condolences to you during this dark time. I'm here if you need anything."
"I hope that the love and support from your family and friends, including me, gets you through this time. You're in my prayers."
"I wish you nothing but comfort and strength. Rest in peace, _________."
"I've never really written a sympathy card before so forgive me if this doesn't come out sounding right. I am so sorry to hear about this loss and am deeply saddened. If you need anything, know that you're not alone. I'm here for you."
"While there's nothing I can do to change what happened, I can continue to offer you my love and support. Extending my most heartfelt condolences to you and your family."

Messages of Sympathy for Closer Friends and Family

Below you'll find messages of s